Worried About Your Child's Emotions or Confidence?

1. Self Awareness involves recognizing aspects of who you are as a person. This includes what you think and feel, how you react, and importantly, why.

2. A good practice in developing self-awareness is focusing on your thoughts. What are you thinking? When do you have certain thoughts? Why do you have these thoughts? Are they productive or harmful?

3. We will begin with thinking about thinking. Our brains are the greatest supercomputers ever created. We have so many thoughts and we process them so quickly we are often unaware of their existence.

4. By learning to think about thinking we begin to focus on our thought life, which ultimately becomes our real life.

Let’s talk about what self-confidence means.

Self-confidence is something you can’t touch, but it affects how you feel. You can’t see it, but it is there when you look in the mirror. You can’t hear it, but it is there every time you talk about yourself.

Self-confidence is feeling good about yourself and knowing you are a likable, capable person.

I am sure self-confidence is a word you have heard and maybe you even know how to tell if people are confident. In this module, you will learn about self-confidence and self-esteem and how to identify both good and poor confidence and esteem. Remember, you can improve your self-confidence.

It is essential for our well-being to cultivate and maintain healthy relationships. Benefits of healthy relationships include:

1. Emotional Support: Our friends, family, and acquaintances give us the supportive network we need. We can share joys, sorrows, and challenges together. Emotional support from loved ones helps us navigate life's ups and downs.
2. Personal Growth: Relationships offer opportunities for personal growth and self-reflection. Interacting with others helps us develop empathy, understanding, and emotional intelligence.
3. Health and Happiness: Healthy relationships contribute to overall well-being. We can have increased happiness, reduced stress levels, and improved mental and physical health.

Please think of your relationships. Please take a minute to journal the benefits you gain from people in your life.

Recognizing anger is like learning to spot a storm before it hits.

When you’re angry, you might feel your face get hot, your fists clench, or your heart beat faster.

Your thoughts might be racing, thinking about what upset you or how unfair things seem.

Psychologists say that noticing these signs helps you manage your emotions better.

Paying attention to how your body feels and what you’re thinking when you’re angry can help you to handle anger in a healthy way.

Knowing when you are angry is the first step to then using tools to cope with the anger in helpful ways.

Being responsible means we act with reflection rather than impulsiveness. Responsible decision-making requires us to pause and think carefully.

It’s crucial to analyze our options by considering the personal consequences and how they will affect others. We need to keep our values in mind throughout the process to guide our choices.

A responsible decision involves choosing an option that considers not only our immediate desires but also the long-term effects on ourselves and others. It requires us to think ahead and weigh the pros and cons before acting.

For example, a responsible approach if you’re deciding whether to study for a big exam or hang out with friends would be to balance both. You might choose to study first and then hang out, ensuring you stay on track with your grades while still enjoying time with friends. It also means thinking about how your choice impacts others, such as how it affects your grades, your friendships, or your future goals.

A smart step in any decision-making process is involving a trusted adult. You can learn about these responsible decision-making qualities alongside Drew, Payton, and Jordan.

Focus and attention are super important for learning and getting stuff done.

Think of focus as a mental "spotlight" that helps your brain lock onto one thing at a time.

But attention doesn’t last forever – it’s normal for it to fade after 10–20 minutes, especially at your age.

Cool stuff, like games or hobbies, makes focusing easier because your brain releases dopamine, which keeps you interested.

On the flip side, distractions, like checking your phone, can mess you up – it can take about 20 minutes to get back on track!

Facing a tough challenge? Whether it’s at school or in everyday life, problem-solving skills can help you tackle it! Here’s a simple, 5-step process to guide you:

1. Define the problem – Understand exactly what’s wrong.
2. Brainstorm solutions – Think of all possible ways to fix it.
3. Research and choose the best option – Pick the solution that makes the most sense.
4. Apply the solution – Put your plan into action.
5. Evaluate the results – Did your solution work? If not, tweak it and try again.

You can solve any problem with confidence and creativity by following these steps. Ready to take on your next challenge? Try using the 5-step process and see how it works for you!

Emotions are temporary, fleeting knee-jerk responses in the moment, and feelings are more sustained over time. When emotions feel overwhelming, our brain treats them like a tangled mess, making it hard to think clearly. But when we name our emotions – “I feel angry,” “I feel fear,” or “I feel happy” – we activate the logical part of our brain, which helps us process them instead of being controlled by them.

Try This:
Next time you feel overwhelmed, pause and ask yourself:

1. What emotion am I feeling? (Use the big six emotions: anger, disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, surprise.)
2. Where do I feel it in my body? (Tension in shoulders, racing heart, etc.)
3. What can I do next? (Take a deep breath, reframe the situation, or simply acknowledge the feeling.)

You don’t need to wait for a stressful time to practice mindfulness. The practice of being mindful is available to you any time of the day! Taking a moment to take a deep breath during the course of your day, or stopping to admire a freshly bloomed flower is a way of practicing mindfulness. When you are slowing down and being present in the moment, you are being mindful.

All goals are not equal, and some give you a better chance at success. You want to set yourself up for success from the start of the goal-setting process by setting effective goals. Let's revisit those goals you've already identified and build on them using what was learned in this module.

Practice by reviewing your goals and editing them according to the qualities that make goals effective. Effective goal qualities include time-limited, achievable, simple, and specific goals. Download the Effective Goals worksheet here to complete the following steps:

STEP 1: Write down 3–5 goals

STEP 2: Put a star by ones that should be edited.

STEP 3: Practice rewriting them.