One of the most painful parts of the tween years isn’t failed tests or missed goals—it’s changing friendships. The friend they spent every day with last semester now sits at a different lunch table. The group chat has gone quiet. Maybe they’ve even been left out entirely.
If your tween is facing friendship changes, you’ve likely felt their heartache right along with them—and wondered how to help without making it worse.
Why Friendships Change During the Tween Years
This age is marked by identity exploration, and that extends to social connections. Your tween isn’t being abandoned—they’re curating. But that doesn’t make it easier. Common reasons for friendship shifts include:
- Changing interests (sports, arts, academics)
- New social hierarchies or cliques forming
- Simple growing apart as values and personalities evolve
3 Ways to Support Your Tween Through Social Transitions
- Listen without fixing.
Sometimes they just need to vent—not be handed a solution
. - Normalize change.
Remind them that most people outgrow at least some childhood friendships—it’s part of growing up. - Encourage branching out.
Help them find low-pressure environments to meet peers with similar hobbies or values.
How Bloomster Helps Tweens Build Resilient Social Skills
In our course “Relationship Building Basics,” tweens learn the essential skills that make friendships stronger and social situations easier to navigate. They’ll learn how to:
- Communicate clearly and respectfully in any situation
- Practice empathy and understand others’ perspectives
- Build healthy, supportive friendships based on trust
- Navigate misunderstandings or conflicts with confidence
- Strengthen social awareness to connect more meaningfully with peers
Friendships may shift as tweens grow — but with the right skills, they can build connections that feel safe, positive, and authentic.
Free Resource for Parents
Ready to put these ideas into practice? Explore our free eBook library with many different resources for you and your tween. It’s a great tool to help your child build a growth mindset and find value in the learning process. Start the year with tools that help your child grow — one small step at a time.
